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Speaking Without Fear
My goal here is to inspire you to find the power of your real voice, to not be afraid to speak up, and to make the changes you deeply desire.
Your dreams:
One can dream, but it takes action; and action will most likely involve speaking to others. For instance, what if you are no longer happy at your job and you start to imagine working somewhere else? You may look at other opportunities, but to actually inquire, you will need to talk to someone. What if you are afraid to interview? You won’t be able to make the change unless you can present yourself to others.
Your relationships:
If you are not happy in your relationship, you need your voice to express whatever is upsetting you and to explain what you need. But if you are too timid to speak up and tell the truth, your life stays the same. You don’t change. And if you do want more intimacy, it requires that you communicate the love that is in your heart.
Your daily life:
There are many examples of daily life situations where people avoid stepping into the changes they want to make because they simply are too afraid to speak. As a psychologist, I work every day with people who are breaking through their fear and connecting with their true voice. They feel empowered and learn how to use the natural strength that comes from within.
This blog:
In this blog I will be sharing with you all that I have learned about speaking without fear. I once suffered from stage fright, so I’ve traveled the path myself. You will get help from someone who knows from her own experience how fright shows up in the body with palpitations or cold sweats or dry mouth. You’ll also get help from an expert who has studied at UC Berkeley, received a Ph.D., and who has been working privately with individuals for thirty years.
give tips on how to transform your fear into a magnetic presence.
The posts that follow will:
- relate stories about people who have tapped into the power of their authentic voice
- reveal personal accounts where I was once stricken with terror
- show you my own path to freedom
- guide you to your essential self
- teach you the steps I write about in my book, Essential Speaking: The 7-Step Guide to Finding Your Real Voice
This blog is all about finding your voice so you can change your life. I hope you will be inspired to speak without fear in all areas of your life.
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