Do you get anxious looking at your audience?

Do You Get Anxious Looking at Your Audience?

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  Do you get anxious looking at your audience? “Here’s lookin’ at you, kid” was spoken by Humphrey Bogart to Ingrid Bergman in the classic movie, Casablanca. This line has a rich meaning when you apply it to public speaking and “seeing” your listeners. Are you wondering how? Let me explain… People tell me they are afraid to look into the eyes of their listeners when they are presenting to a group. Perhaps this anxiety of truly seeing people relates…

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Is Your Public Speaking Anxiety “Deep Rooted”​?

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Your public speaking anxiety may have deep roots…and here’s why: When you were young and ever so tender, your ability to freely express yourself may have been stunted. If so, to develop a strong and resilient sense of being safe whenever you speak is compromised… …and childhood memories of criticism, judgement, bullying, humiliation, and/or shame persist. You may not have had the internal resources or the external support to heal the emotional injuries at such a young age. You had…

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Can You Really Get Rid of Speaking Anxiety?

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Can you Overcome Public Speaking Anxiety? When people start to work with me, the question I hear most often is this… … “Can I get rid of my public speaking anxiety!” Does this sound familiar? If so, you probably have already searched for a program that can lead you to confident speaking without any anxiety. You think the solution is to get rid of your anxiety, and you desperately want to know how. But consider this thought… And before I…

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Are you Hiding or Welcoming Your Authentic Self?

By | Authentic Speaking, Essential Speaking, Fear of Speaking, Fearless Public Speaking, Find Your Voice Blog, Mindfulness and speaking, Public Speaking Anxiety, Public Speaking Coaching, Public Speaking Tips, Speaking Circles | No Comments

Are you Hiding Your Authentic Self? Many people are simply too afraid to even face their public speaking anxieties. They can and do avoid the spotlight for years. The truth is that the beautiful and natural Essential Self within never gets to come out from hiding. It never learns to dance and play and sing because it might be judged. Let’s extend an invitation and welcome the authentic self, your most powerful inner resource, out into a new world. You…

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FEAR NOT Podcast: Living Beyond Your Fears

FEAR NOT Podcast: Living Beyond Your Fears

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FEAR NOT: Living Beyond Your Fears In this episode of FEAR NOT, I will share with you the secrets I discovered as I faced my own fear of public speaking. Even though I have a Ph.D. in psychology, I hid my fear. In conquering it, I found that being connected to your authentic self is the key to confident speaking. Listen as I discuss my 7-Steps to Fearless Speaking Program. You will learn how to achieve: Full presence that keeps…

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Genuine Presence: The Key to Speaking Without Fear

Transforming Public Speaking Fear: From Toastmasters to Speaking Circles®

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I did Toastmasters quite a few years ago when I was first beginning to face my fear of public speaking. I got awards—regional awards, district awards, and yet I still did not get to that place inside where my fear took residence. Deep within I was still hiding how terrified I was of standing up in front of people with all eyes on me…judging and evaluating. Read More

Speak Without Fear

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Programs offered by The Essential Speaking Institute are designed to inspire you to find the power of your real voice, speak without fear, and make the changes you deeply desire. I enjoy sharing with you all that I have learned about speaking without fear. Having suffered from stage fright myself, I’ve traveled the same path you may be on. I know from my own experience how fright can show up in a body. Heart palpitations, cold sweats, dry mouth, and…

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Connection: The 6th Secret to Fearless Speaking

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Most people experience a connection when they are speaking one-to-one with another person. It is when they speak in front of a group that many people begin to feel afraid and lose the connection to themselves and to their listeners. The secret to speaking without fear when you are talking to a group is to connect with one person at a time and simply speak conversationally. Connection With Yourself As long as I take a breath in and let it…

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Deep Listening: The 4th Secret to Fearless Speaking

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As a Psychologist, the listening I offer is deep, arises from my heart, is full of curiosity, and does not judge. This pure quality of deep listening allows people to feel safe and gives them the courage to speak without fear. What I’ve noticed is that most people don’t carry within themselves such a kind and compassionate listener. They walk around and imagine others are listening to them in the same way as they are listening to themselves–with a harsh…

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Awareness: The 3rd Secret to Fearless Speaking

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I used to be very uncomfortable with eye-to-eye contact. It was awkward and made me feel uneasy, especially if I didn’t know the person. So speaking in front of a group was even more challenging since there were so many eyes staring back at me. Standing in front of a group and looking out at all the eyes was as terrifying as looking out at a room full of sharks. Why People are Afraid to Look at Each Other Many…

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