I wondered if I should cancel the meeting

I wondered if I should cancel the meeting?

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My Fear to Lead a Meeting Why? Because, after a few cancellations, I had only two people signed up for the Berkeley Speaking Circle®? The meeting was scheduled to start in an hour. I wondered… …If the two participants could get enough value out of such an undersized group. …If I should begin the group as I usually do and just carry on. I always present the guidelines and then invite each person to take turns practicing Relational Presence ……

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10 Steps to Prepare a Talk and Boost Your Confidence

10 Steps to Prepare a Talk and Boost Your Confidence

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Boost your Confidence with these 10 Steps I know you usually find me guiding you to be present and connected when you’re speaking, however… …as I’m preparing to give a presentation myself… I wanted to share the 10 steps I personally go through to create content and structure my talk… 1. Know the content you want to share. It helps if you are passionate about the topic. This passion infuses YOU with more natural enthusiasm when you speak. The audience…

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Presence and Public Speaking

Presence and Public Speaking

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Early signs of public speaking anxiety I just received a note from one of my coaching clients and I thought it would speak to you… …especially if you are still working on getting over your speaking anxiety. In my articles, I’ve been helping you learn how to recognize the early signs of anxiety. When you can notice the discomfort, you can stop it. Let’s look at a scale of 1-10, 1 being total, Buddha-like peace and 10 being a complete…

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Afraid to Run Out of Words When Speaking in Public?

Afraid to Run Out of Words When Speaking in Public?

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Losing Your Words When Speaking? I recently received an email from a woman who said she’s afraid of losing her words and being spontaneously asked to speak. Two very common fears! If you have or ever have had either fear, I thought you might find my response helpful. Be Present and You Will Find Your Words “Both situations you refer to, running out of what to say and speaking spontaneously are about being able to be fully present in the…

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Four Steps to Inner Clarity

Four Steps to Inner Clarity

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  Finding Inner Clarity I thought you might be inspired by a podcast episode I’ve just heard. I believe it speaks to how to overcome speaking anxiety… any time… any where. It’s from the podcast series Unshakable Self-Confidence, and it’s about taking the leap into your true nature, the essence of who you are. Check it out here: https://player.fm/series/unshakable-self-confidence/how-to-use-mediation-to-reconnect-to-our-inherent-power. Basically, Joni Pollard presents a 4-point sequence to help you reconnect to your most essential power at the very moment you…

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If Public Speaking Feels Like Torture, Do This.

If Public Speaking Feels Like Torture, Do This.

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Is Public speaking Torture for You? A few weeks ago, I received this question from a coaching client: “You know what is most frustrating to me? I feel like I am a rather calm person – I really don’t feel like a person who runs with high anxiety. “As a nurse and as a mom and a wife and a student, I am so chill compared to others that I see around me. So why is public speaking so tortuous…

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Presence and Connection benefits customers

Presence and Connection Lead to Customers

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Presence and Connection Lead to Customers When you speak, it is your presence and connection ability that carries your words to a customer. You may think that your words are the important factor, but being in the moment, fully present, connected to yourself and others gives power to what you say. Whether it is sales or support, when you are anxious, you are less effective. Perhaps you feel pressured to make an impression or get the sale. Maybe you lack…

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Overcoming public speaking anxiety

I read my vows and didn’t die

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Overwhelmed with Speaking Anxiety? I’m always on the lookout for inspiring stories about people who overcome public speaking anxiety. I found this story on Reddit about a woman who got married, suffered speaking anxiety, and “didn’t die.” I thought you would really enjoy it. The bride reveals how nervous she was in the moment. Then she does the very thing I teach my clients to do when they are overwhelmed with anxiety. “I successfully had a wedding with 130 guests…

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Tips for helping to stop rehearsing your script

Stop rehearsing your script and here’s why

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Does Rehearsing really ward off speaking anxiety? Do you think rehearsing a speech over and over or scripting every word will help you ward off anxiety and look more confident? I used to believe rehearsing was the key to success. In Toastmasters I scripted every speech. I thought if I got the words right and delivered them flawlessly, I’d eventually find my way to confident speaking. Spending hours and hours rehearsing a short 5-minute speech! I taped myself on a…

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Do you get anxious looking at your audience?

Do You Get Anxious Looking at Your Audience?

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  Do you get anxious looking at your audience? “Here’s lookin’ at you, kid” was spoken by Humphrey Bogart to Ingrid Bergman in the classic movie, Casablanca. This line has a rich meaning when you apply it to public speaking and “seeing” your listeners. Are you wondering how? Let me explain… People tell me they are afraid to look into the eyes of their listeners when they are presenting to a group. Perhaps this anxiety of truly seeing people relates…

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