FEAR NOT Podcast: Living Beyond Your Fears

FEAR NOT Podcast: Living Beyond Your Fears

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FEAR NOT: Living Beyond Your Fears In this episode of FEAR NOT, I will share with you the secrets I discovered as I faced my own fear of public speaking. Even though I have a Ph.D. in psychology, I hid my fear. In conquering it, I found that being connected to your authentic self is the key to confident speaking. Listen as I discuss my 7-Steps to Fearless Speaking Program. You will learn how to achieve: Full presence that keeps…

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Genuine Presence: The Key to Speaking Without Fear

Transforming Public Speaking Fear: From Toastmasters to Speaking Circles®

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I did Toastmasters quite a few years ago when I was first beginning to face my fear of public speaking. I got awards—regional awards, district awards, and yet I still did not get to that place inside where my fear took residence. Deep within I was still hiding how terrified I was of standing up in front of people with all eyes on me…judging and evaluating. Read More

Speak Without Fear

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Programs offered by The Essential Speaking Institute are designed to inspire you to find the power of your real voice, speak without fear, and make the changes you deeply desire. I enjoy sharing with you all that I have learned about speaking without fear. Having suffered from stage fright myself, I’ve traveled the same path you may be on. I know from my own experience how fright can show up in a body. Heart palpitations, cold sweats, dry mouth, and…

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Connection: The 6th Secret to Fearless Speaking

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Most people experience a connection when they are speaking one-to-one with another person. It is when they speak in front of a group that many people begin to feel afraid and lose the connection to themselves and to their listeners. The secret to speaking without fear when you are talking to a group is to connect with one person at a time and simply speak conversationally. Connection With Yourself As long as I take a breath in and let it…

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Deep Listening: The 4th Secret to Fearless Speaking

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As a Psychologist, the listening I offer is deep, arises from my heart, is full of curiosity, and does not judge. This pure quality of deep listening allows people to feel safe and gives them the courage to speak without fear. What I’ve noticed is that most people don’t carry within themselves such a kind and compassionate listener. They walk around and imagine others are listening to them in the same way as they are listening to themselves–with a harsh…

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Awareness: The 3rd Secret to Fearless Speaking

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I used to be very uncomfortable with eye-to-eye contact. It was awkward and made me feel uneasy, especially if I didn’t know the person. So speaking in front of a group was even more challenging since there were so many eyes staring back at me. Standing in front of a group and looking out at all the eyes was as terrifying as looking out at a room full of sharks. Why People are Afraid to Look at Each Other Many…

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Silence: The 1st Step to Fearless Speaking

Silence: The 1st Secret to Fearless Speaking

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“A silent mind is far more precise, accurate, and powerful than anything that is contained in the boundaries of rational thought.” Deepak Chopra Be Silent When people come to my programs on overcoming the fear of speaking, they are always surprised to see that I begin my 7 steps to Fearless Speaking with “Be Silent.” Immediately they know they are not in a conventional course like other classes that often stress how to craft and organize a speech or how…

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Reduce Stage Fright: Talk Only to One Person at a Time

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Public Speaking is a Series of One-to-One Conversations Approach public speaking as more of a “me-to-you” discussion rather than a full-blown broadcast,  suggests G.I. Taylor in the Fear of Speaking blog.  I agree with the idea of seeing yourself talking to one person at a time when you are in front of groups.  When you […]

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Public Speaking Anxiety: An Exercise for Eliminating Uhms and Ahs

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Ums and Ahs are Fillers That Point to Public Speaking Anxiety Did you know that ums and ahs are fillers that point to an underlying public speaking anxiety? Once you are aware of this fact, you start to listen more carefully to speakers. You might notice that when someone speaks without any fillers, you feel like you can listen more easily. The speaker’s words seem to flow together more smoothly as opposed to the choppy, hesitant sounds of the ums…

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