I wondered if I should cancel the meeting

I wondered if I should cancel the meeting?

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My Fear to Lead a Meeting Why? Because, after a few cancellations, I had only two people signed up for the Berkeley Speaking Circle®? The meeting was scheduled to start in an hour. I wondered… …If the two participants could get enough value out of such an undersized group. …If I should begin the group as I usually do and just carry on. I always present the guidelines and then invite each person to take turns practicing Relational Presence ……

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End Speaking Anxiety - Online Group Coaching

End Speaking Anxiety – Online Group Coaching

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Join me so you can find the voice that is truly yours and speak without anxiety. Here’s what recent participants said after they completed the program: “Working with Doreen was life-changing. I found an inner, grounded, real sense of confidence. My true voice and my strength were waiting for me all along.” Sarah M. “The program has had a dramatic positive effect on both my work life and my personal life. It goes much deeper than public speaking skills. I…

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10 Steps to Prepare a Talk and Boost Your Confidence

10 Steps to Prepare a Talk and Boost Your Confidence

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Boost your Confidence with these 10 Steps I know you usually find me guiding you to be present and connected when you’re speaking, however… …as I’m preparing to give a presentation myself… I wanted to share the 10 steps I personally go through to create content and structure my talk… 1. Know the content you want to share. It helps if you are passionate about the topic. This passion infuses YOU with more natural enthusiasm when you speak. The audience…

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3 Common Blocks to Sharing Your Story...And How to Breakthrough Them

3 Common Blocks to Sharing Your Story and How to Breakthrough Them

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Breaking through the 3 Common Blocks In a previous article, I gave you three tips to create juicy stories. Here they are again… be personal, be specific, and be inspirational. But what happens if you get blocked? What happens if you find yourself unable to put your story together so you can tell it? I have found 3 common blocks that stop people in their tracks as they try to pin down their stories: 1. My stories are personal… 2….

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Presence and Public Speaking

Presence and Public Speaking

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Early signs of public speaking anxiety I just received a note from one of my coaching clients and I thought it would speak to you… …especially if you are still working on getting over your speaking anxiety. In my articles, I’ve been helping you learn how to recognize the early signs of anxiety. When you can notice the discomfort, you can stop it. Let’s look at a scale of 1-10, 1 being total, Buddha-like peace and 10 being a complete…

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Tips on speaking from your essence

Speak From the Essence of Who You Are

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When You Connect to Your Essence, Your Voice is Pure and Powerful. I think one has to first believe that within their own body/self/soul there is a core Essence that is powerful, pure, and positive. But how do you find and connect with that state of being within? Several ways I have come to know this for myself have involved therapy, personal growth workshops, coaching, and, of course, Speaking Circles®. I had to learn to open up, trust, and believe that…

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Afraid to Run Out of Words When Speaking in Public?

Afraid to Run Out of Words When Speaking in Public?

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Losing Your Words When Speaking? I recently received an email from a woman who said she’s afraid of losing her words and being spontaneously asked to speak. Two very common fears! If you have or ever have had either fear, I thought you might find my response helpful. Be Present and You Will Find Your Words “Both situations you refer to, running out of what to say and speaking spontaneously are about being able to be fully present in the…

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Stillness: The Key to Public Speaking Ease

Stillness: The Key to Public Speaking Ease

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Stillness: The Key to Public Speaking Ease Do you know the secret to relaxed public speaking? Relaxed public speaking is possible when you can be at ease with silence. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8o7wjbs3NLs In this video, Lee Glickstein, founder of Speaking Circles International, demonstrates the power of silence when you are in front of an audience. You might ask, “How is it possible that a silent inner stillness is what reduces public speaking anxiety?” The answer to how inner silence grounds you and makes you…

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Anxiety to Tranquility

From Anxiety to Tranquility in 3 Steps

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Speaking Anxiety Symptoms When you are about to speak in public, have you ever felt your heart pound out of your chest, sweat pour down your face, and fog fill your head? This state of anxiety is called the “fight or flight” response. It makes you want to run out of the room and get the heck out of dodge. But … hold your horses… There is a way you can instantly take your body to a calm and centered…

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Four Steps to Inner Clarity

Four Steps to Inner Clarity

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  Finding Inner Clarity I thought you might be inspired by a podcast episode I’ve just heard. I believe it speaks to how to overcome speaking anxiety… any time… any where. It’s from the podcast series Unshakable Self-Confidence, and it’s about taking the leap into your true nature, the essence of who you are. Check it out here: https://player.fm/series/unshakable-self-confidence/how-to-use-mediation-to-reconnect-to-our-inherent-power. Basically, Joni Pollard presents a 4-point sequence to help you reconnect to your most essential power at the very moment you…

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If Public Speaking Feels Like Torture, Do This.

If Public Speaking Feels Like Torture, Do This.

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Is Public speaking Torture for You? A few weeks ago, I received this question from a coaching client: “You know what is most frustrating to me? I feel like I am a rather calm person – I really don’t feel like a person who runs with high anxiety. “As a nurse and as a mom and a wife and a student, I am so chill compared to others that I see around me. So why is public speaking so tortuous…

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The Secret to Telling Juicy Stories

The Secret to Telling Juicy Stories

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How to Tell Juicy Stories How do you tell a story so juicy your audience is left with their mouths watering like they’re gazing at a red, ripe strawberry? Well, there are three keys to creating captivating and juicy stories. Stories are naturally juicy when they are … Personal Specific Inspirational Let’s go through them one at a time, shall we? Make your Story Personal First, share something personal from your own life. You are a fascinating creature. When you…

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Presence and Connection benefits customers

Presence and Connection Lead to Customers

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Presence and Connection Lead to Customers When you speak, it is your presence and connection ability that carries your words to a customer. You may think that your words are the important factor, but being in the moment, fully present, connected to yourself and others gives power to what you say. Whether it is sales or support, when you are anxious, you are less effective. Perhaps you feel pressured to make an impression or get the sale. Maybe you lack…

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What Is More Powerful Than Your Words?

What Is More Powerful Than Your Words?

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Our common language There is a common language we all share and it is more powerful than words. The best way to explain this language is to share about my recent trip to Greece. The phrase, “it’s all Greek to me” ran through my mind constantly. When I tried to communicate with someone other than a shopkeeper, it was literally all Greek to me. I couldn’t understand anything. I realized, however, that I did connect with individuals using another language……

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Overcoming public speaking anxiety

I read my vows and didn’t die

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Overwhelmed with Speaking Anxiety? I’m always on the lookout for inspiring stories about people who overcome public speaking anxiety. I found this story on Reddit about a woman who got married, suffered speaking anxiety, and “didn’t die.” I thought you would really enjoy it. The bride reveals how nervous she was in the moment. Then she does the very thing I teach my clients to do when they are overwhelmed with anxiety. “I successfully had a wedding with 130 guests…

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Tips for helping to stop rehearsing your script

Stop rehearsing your script and here’s why

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Does Rehearsing really ward off speaking anxiety? Do you think rehearsing a speech over and over or scripting every word will help you ward off anxiety and look more confident? I used to believe rehearsing was the key to success. In Toastmasters I scripted every speech. I thought if I got the words right and delivered them flawlessly, I’d eventually find my way to confident speaking. Spending hours and hours rehearsing a short 5-minute speech! I taped myself on a…

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Do you get anxious looking at your audience?

Do You Get Anxious Looking at Your Audience?

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  Do you get anxious looking at your audience? “Here’s lookin’ at you, kid” was spoken by Humphrey Bogart to Ingrid Bergman in the classic movie, Casablanca. This line has a rich meaning when you apply it to public speaking and “seeing” your listeners. Are you wondering how? Let me explain… People tell me they are afraid to look into the eyes of their listeners when they are presenting to a group. Perhaps this anxiety of truly seeing people relates…

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7 Tips from athletes for overcoming public speaking fear

How to Stay Cool & Calm: 7 Tips from Athletes

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Best Way to Calm Your Nerves when Speaking Do you want to know the best way to calm your nerves when you are about to speak in front of an audience? If you want to know how to keep yourself composed and calm when speaking, read this article… “Big Game Preparation – 7 Tips to Staying Cool & Calm in the Clutch” You will see immediately why I want to share this exciting news with you. What the author, Dr….

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Better eye contact for public speaking

The “Hey Look Me Over”​ Exercise

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Do you want to have better eye contact while speaking? “Hey look me over… lend me an ear” is the first line of a Broadway musical song sung by Lucille Ball. How could this line relate to better eye contact when speaking? When I think of this line, I don’t imagine Lucille in one of her whacky performances. I think of you standing in front of an audience ready to speak. How does it feel when all eyes of an…

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"Springsteen on Broadway"

“Springsteen on Broadway”​ and why I’m now a fan

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I just saw Bruce Springsteen’s Broadway show on Netflix… and now I’m a total fan of “the boss”. It’s an awesome performance based on his book, Born to Run. And if you’re interested in learning about “speaking from your essence,” I think you’ll want to check it out. Why? Let me tell you what captivated my heart and soul. First, it was Springsteen’s authenticity. He was real as real can be. Of course, he’s been on thousands of stages. He’s…

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