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Be Positive: The 5th Secret to Fearless Speaking

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What Makes a Positive Attitude So Attractive? Someone who has a positive attitude is like a ray of warm sunshine that brings me happiness. When that person smiles in a genuine way I can feel the warmth radiating from every cell in their body. He or she lights up the moment for me. Isn’t this true for you? Just think about your circle of friends. Identify the friend who has the most positive energy. How do you feel when you…

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Deep Listening: The 4th Secret to Fearless Speaking

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As a Psychologist, the listening I offer is deep, arises from my heart, is full of curiosity, and does not judge. This pure quality of deep listening allows people to feel safe and gives them the courage to speak without fear. What I’ve noticed is that most people don’t carry within themselves such a kind and compassionate listener. They walk around and imagine others are listening to them in the same way as they are listening to themselves–with a harsh…

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Awareness: The 3rd Secret to Fearless Speaking

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I used to be very uncomfortable with eye-to-eye contact. It was awkward and made me feel uneasy, especially if I didn’t know the person. So speaking in front of a group was even more challenging since there were so many eyes staring back at me. Standing in front of a group and looking out at all the eyes was as terrifying as looking out at a room full of sharks. Why People are Afraid to Look at Each Other Many…

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Presence: The 2nd Secret to Fearless Speaking

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To Be Present is to Be Free of Fear To be fully present, in the center of the now, is to be free of fear. It is when you think back to an unpleasant memory or when you look ahead at the possibility of being judged by others that the waves of fear begin to move through your body and start to crash upon the shores of your sense of self-confidence. You leave the present moment and enter a moment…

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Silence: The 1st Step to Fearless Speaking

Silence: The 1st Secret to Fearless Speaking

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“A silent mind is far more precise, accurate, and powerful than anything that is contained in the boundaries of rational thought.” Deepak Chopra Be Silent When people come to my programs on overcoming the fear of speaking, they are always surprised to see that I begin my 7 steps to Fearless Speaking with “Be Silent.” Immediately they know they are not in a conventional course like other classes that often stress how to craft and organize a speech or how…

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Authentic Speaking in Business

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Are You Being Authentic? When you speak, your listeners will have their radar up looking to see if you are for real and to determine whether they can trust you are not. Regardless of what you are presenting, they want to be impressed and inspired by YOU. Are you afraid to be seen? Are you hiding behind your words? To reach others in a truly memorable and meaningful way, you need to be authentic. The challenge is clear…be yourself. Robert…

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Dare to Be Real When Speaking in Public

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Are You Real When Speaking in Public? “Dare to let the real you shine through” is the message by Teresa Tayag, Trainer, Speaker, Public Speaking Coach and blog author of Let the Real You Shine Through. I agree with Teresa that to be real when speaking in public is the biggest commitment you can make to yourself and to your audience. Most conventional guidance given to speakers is about performance, looking good, and putting on an act with all the…

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Leadership Presence: Leaders Who Know How to Learn

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Leaders Who are Open to Learning When a participant in my Leadership Presence workshop wondered about her tendency to deny her own power as a leader simply because she was a woman, I asked her if she was willing to look more deeply at this tendency. She was already committed to her personal growth, and like the others in the class, she realized that being a leader first begins with knowing yourself as fully as possible. So she began to…

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Reduce Stage Fright: Talk Only to One Person at a Time

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Public Speaking is a Series of One-to-One Conversations Approach public speaking as more of a “me-to-you” discussion rather than a full-blown broadcast,  suggests G.I. Taylor in the Fear of Speaking blog.  I agree with the idea of seeing yourself talking to one person at a time when you are in front of groups.  When you […]

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The Most Important Rule in Public Speaking: Be Yourself

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“Most important rule… be yourself!” FastUpFront Blog in their article, “5 Essential Public Speaking Tips for Non-Public Speakers,” wrote about this number one rule. But how do people discover who they are? As a psychologist, I believe you need safe learning environments to explore and develop yourself. So much of our social training growing up […]

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The 7 Steps to Being a Fearless Speaker

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We are all public speakers.  Whether you are giving a presentation at work, sharing your opinion at a meeting, or talking to someone one-on-one, you are expressing yourself.  The question is, do you feel comfortable and confident being who you are?  These 7 steps help you focus on what really matters in any communication—your authentic […]

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From Fear to Authenticity

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After one of our recent trainings on Relational Presence, a seminar that focuses on overcoming the fear of public speaking, one of the participants watched his video and reported witnessing his transformation from fear to authenticity. “I remember going to see the film ‘Bambi’ as a kid, and I remember that scene when he gets […]

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Public Speaking Anxiety: An Exercise for Eliminating Uhms and Ahs

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Ums and Ahs are Fillers That Point to Public Speaking Anxiety Did you know that ums and ahs are fillers that point to an underlying public speaking anxiety? Once you are aware of this fact, you start to listen more carefully to speakers. You might notice that when someone speaks without any fillers, you feel like you can listen more easily. The speaker’s words seem to flow together more smoothly as opposed to the choppy, hesitant sounds of the ums…

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Ums and Ahs: How the Fear of Public Speaking Shows Up

Ums and Ahs: How the Fear of Public Speaking Shows Up

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The Unconscious Habit Much of what is written about fillers such as uhms and ahs states that they are an unconscious habit. The sounds, words, and phrases that fill up the silences are for the most part not even recognized by people as they speak. Unconscious means out-of-awareness. When a habit is repeated without conscious awareness, we can guess that there is also a reason for that habit that is not yet identified or understood. The uhms and ahs serve…

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How Authentic Speaking can Heal Negative Patterns

How Authentic Speaking can Heal Negative Patterns

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What is Authentic Speaking?   A workshop participant who attended Leadership Presence:  How to Inspire Groups to Action wrote this note to me and my training partner, Lee Glickstein, founder of Speaking Circles International. “I want to say a huge thank you for the incredible gift of holding such a safe and expansive space for us all and for the incredible love and acceptance that has allowed me to move through some very difficult ‘stuff’ … (breath!) I loved that…

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Clear Thinking and Fearless Expression

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2-Day Speaking Circles® Intensive Facilitated by Lee Glickstein and Doreen Hamilton When: Saturday and Sunday, February 27-28, 2010 Time: 10am-5pm Where: San Anselmo, CA Fee: $350 Registration: www.speakingcircles.com 415-488-4460 At this training you will be provided with the support and tools you need to express yourself with ease, presence, and clarity in your own unique way in front of any group. Whether you are new to Speaking Circle or a regular, a non-speaker, beginning speaker or a professional, this in-depth…

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3 P’s of Authentic Speaking: Passion, Personality and Play

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Today I found an article related to authentic speaking by Teresa Tayag, Trainer, Speaker, Public Speaking Coach from “Let the Real You Shine Through.” Teresa writes… “Public speaking has been a very intimidating pursuit for many. Experienced speakers have established countless forbidding guidelines that make many aspiring speakers cringe and at times, give up. The gurus have dictated their defined “rules” as if they are proven scientific facts: the way a speaker looks, the way a speaker moves, the way…

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